blurred about life"s simple complexities

Monday, June 12, 2006

cramp

i is trying to cramp all my thoughts in one post.
i is trying to update my blog.
i is attempting to blurrify me readers.

fun! hahaha

random musing 1
kids these days are seriously very smart. was just talking to a 9 year old kid about IT stuff - gigabytes, megabytes, mp3, file transfer. and this kid even knows what's a gynecologist! i didnt even know there were names for such doctors till i was in college (i think). they're too smart. sigh.. whatever happened to adults fooling them with craps and they believe it. *sigh*

random musing 2
was travelling back from church to home by cab and the friendly guy taught me a thing or two about marriage.

cabbie: girl, next time you want to find a husband, you must make sure you check his background. his family background. everything. then when you two want to buy a house or any property, make sure you insist to have your name together. at least your name is in the property also. then if anything happened, he cannot disturb you cuz your also own part of the property.

me: *??!?* err.. yea, check his background but if we're going to get married, should have faith that nothing will happen and if it does, should work it out, right?

cabbie: yes, but you donno what can happen. people say love is blind. you check the dictionary. i am saying that you must be prepared if something bad happen.

me: (wah.. which dictionary la?) yea, uncle.. but they also say 'love never fails' (putting biblical truth) and..

cabbie: haiyah, you donno wan. when ppl in love, everything is like a fairy-tale but when get married, thats when life actually begins.

me: yea, life as two ppl living together and....

cabbie: next time, i tell you, when you pregnant 8 or 9 months and your husband wants to go out, you also follow him cuz you donno, when he go out other girls will woo your husband cuz you're not there. when you go out with him, they will know that he got a pregnant wife. cannot disturb wan..

me: *speechless and stunned*

i was too tired, stunned and speechless to counter back. he continues to talk about how i should make sure i got enough money, education to support myself if my 'husband-to-be' leaves me. apa ni..!?
i wanted to say 'if you wanted to marry the person, you should believe that you are going to be together grey-headed and not when s/he is going to leave you' or at least talk about 1 cor 13.. but he didnt stop talking. *sigh*

how would you handle that kind of situation..?

random musing 3
following up a little on yasmin ahmad's mukhsin production and seriously, i cant wait for it to be done. well, it is still in the very early stage la. a movie about orked's (character from her previous show 'sepet' and 'gubra') first love.

yasmin ahmad's coming out with the tagline for the show and one of her tagline was really interesting.. 'does friendship end where love begins?'

i would say.. it is possible. depending on the individual-la. but so far, from the ppl that i know, it takes awhile to build the friendship again if love ended.. what do you think?

NO, I'M NOT GETTING EMO! :P it just my random musing la.. hahaha..

oh well, tell me what you think.. :D

17 comments:

deJelly said...

ekeks.. that cabbie seem very feministic.. nyeks...
well, i guess the argument for the males are that they get 'tempted' more so during periods where his wife is pragnant is that they are not quite 'satisfied' sexually.. wakakka... so... wives, if you know your husband is the itchy type... nyeks... find ways to 'satisfy' your husband... hehhehehehe..

'does friendship end where love begins?'
This tag line really hits a note when I read it...
went to yasmin's blog.. pretty cool!!

I think friendship should not end when love begins... but then again, it happens in some cases rite... lovers should idealy be friends first and continue being friends as the foundation of love...

probably the preconceive idea of love has cause lovers to lose focus on friendship...
the idea of the ideal bf... the best gf... the 'suppose to be's' like the constant expression of love... the never ending gifts... the 100% attention thru whatever medium be it sms, call, or even "i'm thinking of you... every single moment of the day" .. the idea of forsaking other friends for this love...

oh well, what do I know... i've never been in a 'love' relationship before... hehehe... I feel like starting one tho... wahahahhaha... who doesn't ; )

just a thought.. = )

Anonymous said...

the cab driver has a valid point though... in life, shit happens.

blurred esh said...

i would think that cabbie has issues.. hahaha.. oh well, its good to hear how other ppl sees life to be.

i would say it would be hard for the couple to start the relationship again unless they are really doing it in a straight mind. well, it is always better to be able to start the friendship again then to never try to start it at all. then it'll be like losing a friend and reason for it - breakup.. how sad.. hahaha..

hey felix, true abt life and shit happens.. but question is, how are you handling that shit? clean it up or leave it there for the whole world to see? hahahaha..

just a thought.. ;o)

deJelly said...

a relationship... in 'advance stages' would be giving the other the my devotion. Before devoting myself, I'm sure I'll find out everything (if possible) about the one i'm devoting myself to. Not that I do not trust her... but because I love her. = )
The magic happens when both devote each self to one another. Quite fairly tale lar.. wakaka.. but hey.. isn't that what we all hope for...

When shit happens, just make sure you don't put it back in... wakakaka! It's better to let it out...

; )

Chickenriceboy said...
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Chickenriceboy said...

Unlike all those comment here. the cabbie points are wise decisions and shud not be taken lightly. He is just being real because unlike all those comments you make , whatever he have told you is very real and it happens.

SO take it from a cabbie who probably have went it thru recently , or have relatives.

There's always a reason for someone to give that advise and I guess he have probably paid that price.

Despite our ideals about marriage and lives , and how we believe relationship will take place as we would like to think , we shud not be complacent and really weight those issues well. After all , compared to the cabbie, we have not gone thru what he might have gone thru. We are still young so we need to listen more.

I suggested Yasmin to watch that korean movie Almost Love which is really how love blossomed in friendships ...

J

Anonymous said...

i FULLY agree with josh tan.. that was well-said, bro!

as for shit happens, i was using it in the context of the advices that the cab driver gave to you.

a lot of ppl i know often think and live in an idealistic framework. however, there's one problem: nothing in this world is ideal.

as for this cab driver, i think he was just giving you some precautions. according to the advices he gave to you, im merely understanding where the cab driver is coming from instead of evaluating his opinions. if only we listened more, and judged less. in my opinion, i think this is one valid and sound piece of advice. very valid.



fay cheng, about your question, when setbacks (as i would prefer to call it) in life happen, i just deal with it, learn from my mistakes and move on...

deJelly said...

er... who's saying the cabbie is wrong.?

I don't seem to understand the "Unlike all those comments here..."

Josh.. i think you got a talent to irritate people... wakaka.. i'm being frank (not Rudolf Frank).. = P
Not sure how you're gonna use that talent... but.. a talent is still a talent ; )

blurred esh said...

whoa.. chill.. hehehehe..

yea it true that in life, many 'interesting' things happens.. no doubt. hey, our God is happening, okie.. hehehe..

regarding the cabbie.. i respect him telling me about married life and what is actually happening. and i believe he's intention was good, too. but its as though he is emphasizing so much on spouses leaving one another - well, thats how i perceive it to be. i mean, there's sure to be ups and downs in marriage but why-la emphasize on the negativity?

probably its just me.. i prefer to talk abt the positivity. its not that i'm being fake or 'too-christian-like' but hey, why-la let the whole world stop with you just because you are down too? well.. like i said.. its probably just me.. ;o)

well, its always nice to have a conversation with unc cabbie. they've got loads of story to tell each ride.

Chickenriceboy said...

Hmm..felt a little of flaming and insult on my way.
Probably it is just dejelly...oh well there are more lesson that you have to learned before commenting on life and me....

Chill lah bro..who saying anyone is wrong. "unlike all those comments here" are showing a contrast of views. No one flaming . Don't take it to heart bro.

Anonymous said...

this has to be Fay's HOTTEST blog entry to date. look at the amount of debate it sparked. LOL!

blurred esh said...

hahaha.. yea man.. in a way...


coffeexified, y'all..!!!

deJelly said...

hottest!! 12 cuppas !! wakakaka..and now 13...
mm... what's cuppas?? hehehehe = P

deJelly said...

Just a thought...

Do u think those word verification thing is a way of brain washing us?? sending subliminal msges thru those random words??

haha

blurred esh said...

'cuppas' is a term where we, coffeexified ppl, used.. kinda like 'cups' la.. neat, eh.. hahaha

the word verification is to blurrify you guys.. *muahahahaha*

Siva said...

Hi Fei Cheng,
Interesting post and comments. Here's my 2 cents worth from a Christian point of view.
The relationship is made up of 2 imperfect people. That's the first thing you have to keep in mind. Second most important thing is trust. If you can't trust your partner don't enter into that relationship. There must be honesty otherwise the union is doomed. Third point, expect to do a lot of hardwork. Maintaining a happy family involves a lot of work. It doesn't drop down from heaven. You have to give and take, forgive and ask for forgiveness, love and be loved, be able to communicate at all times and worship God together. You should learn to do things together. In the beginning it would seem like your space is being invaded but you will learn to adapt as the bible says 'the two shall be one'. If one of you still wants to be independent, the marriage is going to have problems. That's how I see from my 20 years of married experience(to the same woman of course) heh heh.

Chickenriceboy said...

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